dreamstime_xs_16333454“Failure to connect emotionally can hinder your career.  It can interfere with friendships.  It can weaken your relationships with relatives, including your kids.  It can even ruin your marriage.

But here’s the good news: connecting is not magic. Like any other skill, it can be learned, practiced, and mastered.  While learning to connect well emotionally won’t solve all our problems, it ensures that we don’t have to face the ups and downs of life alone. Recent discoveries about the emotional brain have helped us form a body of scientifically proven advice for connecting with one another and improving the quality of our lives. Sharing our experience with others who express understanding and empathy may be helpful and healing in ways we’re only beginning to understand. ”Whenever two or more people get together to accomplish anything, sooner or later there’s bound to be a conflict.  Building better emotional connections doesn’t change this, but it can help you to maintain stable, happy relationships as you discover ways to live with your differences.”  (adapted from The Relationship Cure by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Joan DeClaire)

The Gottman Method draws upon years of clinical research in the U.S. and helps couples target managing conflict more effectively, rebuild friendship and trust and create shared meaning. It can be used for recovering from a crisis or preventing one when couples are preparing for a significant transition such as an international move or the arrival of a new baby. Interventions developed by the Gottmans help couples to find more effective ways to manage conflict, strengthen their friendship and deeply understand each others dreams and goals.